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Post by Vishaan on Wed 24 Feb 2010 - 11:37

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Komien parmi zot ine gete "3 Idiots"?

Zordi zour, ban zenfn nepli endrwa pu choizir zot l'avenir. Li plito ban parents ki decidé ki so zenfan bizin fer ek force zenfan la pu fer sa mem. Ki zot pensé? Moi mo enn victime de sa actuellement.

C plito mo parents ki p decide mo l'avenir.
Kommen Varun dir: Demin zot pu choicir mo madame.

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Post by Varun on Sun 10 Oct 2010 - 18:22

I noticed the same thing. Razz

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Post by Sneha on Sat 16 Oct 2010 - 12:23

Vishaan wrote:@Sneha: Wi wi b sa relations la pa pu bouger san ki zot communiquer. Bizin ena enn bon fasson de communiquer ki manker ici.
D'apres mwa etan enn zenfan kan koz ek paren, bizin ena enn approche.

Wi li enn solution pu ale ver tou les 2 mai foder dimunn ekoute twa.
Fer kuman dir kan to p koz ek enn dimunn ek explik li kitsoz, li avoye twa grand merde. Pa p ekoute twa naryen ek apres li declar pli konner ki twa mem si to pli gran. To pu ena interes koz ar dimunn la enkor?
Pena mwa ki ti pu fer sa.

@Varun: Paran la kav impose idee en corperation de zenfan la. C a dir li fer li san ki zenfan la konner. Kuman enn ti brainwashing amical.

Varun wrote:Don't forget that there's something called as generation gap too.
Sa kouma to pou expliké, Vishaan? Mo paran pansé toultan zot ena raison ek tou ceki zot p fer pou zot zanfan parfé. Zot dir moi si ena kit problem ou kitsoz ki mo pa trouv korek, mo bisin dir pou ki zot koné ki zot pa p bien fer. Kan mo dir, zot pa aksepté zot tor. Zot dir mo fason de voir les choses tro negatif. Wadiré zot pa koné ki apel critik. Ena foi mo anvi tranglé zot!

Aster enn lot zafer. Mwena 1 gran frer ek 1 ser. Depi tipti, mo paran, sirtu mo mama, ine fer preferens pou mo frer akoz garson sa. Mo donn toi enn l'examp pu to compran li mié: Mo paran ti p diné pandan ki mo ti p lav lasiet enn soir. Mo ledo ti p extra fer mal ek monn extra fatigé sa zour la parski ti lepok netoyaz pou Divali. Mo frer fatigé depi travay inn vinn lakaz ek linn dormi pandan 2 hrs tan parla. Linn vinn dan la cuisinn pou diné, mo mama kit so manzé ki li ti manzé a moitié et linn al servi mo frer so diné. Kan monn fini lav lasiet, monn atann mo mama fini servi mo frer pou mo pran mo manzé. Mo ti blié pran salad et mo mama ti fek fini manzé. Vu ke mo pa tiena couraz pou lévé ek al pran salad, monn dimann mo mama si li kapav donn moi. Li dir: 'Mo p lav mo lasiet la. Pran li ou mem.' dan enn ton sarkastik. Monn étoné pou enn ti momen mai apré monn pran salad la moem parski monn pansé li pa enn kitsoz nouvo ki mwma agir koumsa. Sad

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Post by Varun on Sun 17 Oct 2010 - 15:47

I call them culture-blinded parents. Let's see how their daughter-in-law will treat them in the future.

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Post by Jeet on Sun 17 Oct 2010 - 18:32

Sneha tum to meri behan nikli gé, imP pareil kot moi, selman des fois zot compren ki mo rod dir, si dan nere mo kozer, lerla mo mem mo pu ramasse bezer, pas kav control ner la, parseki letan mo enkoler, mo nerver bien mem!!! No

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Post by Vishaan on Sun 17 Oct 2010 - 23:21

@Jeet: enn fierter sa non kan to enkoler? Twisted Evil

@Sneha: Mo pa konn to mama mai si to seye analyse de so point de vue.
Pu to mama enn garson ou enn missier, swa enn mama ou enn madam bizin servi li manger akoz zot bread winner.(to mama work?) Pa konner mai seye gete de so point de vue.
Concernant preference, dan tou lakaz ena. Ban maman prefere zot garson kan a papa prefere zot tiffi.
Wi D'apres ban paran, tou seki banla dir zot dir zot parfer.
Generation gap la, mo truver pluto ke ban jeune montrer zot tro konner, biensure ena exception mai la plipart kumsa. Mwa si mo kumsa..mai mo seye mette mwa dan zot place pu geter si mo ena raison mwa mem ou pa.

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Post by Sneha on Mon 18 Oct 2010 - 13:07

Varun wrote:I call them culture-blinded parents. Let's see how their daughter-in-law will treat them in the future.
Nopes, mo sagrin belfi la plito.

Mo papa ena enn vilain manyer de impoz li lor dimounn. Par examp, kan li rant lakaz, to bisin kit tou to travay ki twena ek koumans fer esclav ar li. Donn li delo, tir so soulié + soset, donn li manzé: fer tou pou li parski li pansé li tousel fatigé akoz sa bisin donn li l'atansion. B kan belfi pou vini, li kapav fer koumsa ek li osi ou mem pir depandan karakter dimounn la.
Jeet wrote:Sneha tum to meri behan nikli gé, imP pareil kot moi, selman des fois zot compren ki mo rod dir, si dan nere mo kozer, lerla mo mem mo pu ramasse bezer, pas kav control ner la, parseki letan mo enkoler, mo nerver bien mem!!! No
Mwena diferen nivo de coler morsi. Ena foi mo kapav controlé fasilman, ena foi non. Kan mo pa kapav control moi, mwena tandans koz bann zafer ki vrai en mem tan blesse dimounn la. Mai bof, vu ke mo konn mo défo mo esey koriz moi d'une fason ou d'une autre. Par examp, mo paran fer moi nervé brit brit alor mo avoy zot kozé merd. Mem si mo pa kapav avoy merd a 100%, omoins monn esey calmé moi ek pa reponn. Mo pual fatig moi pou naryé kan zot pa pou compran moi ni zot pou esey compran moi kouma Varun. Rolling Eyes

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@Sneha: Mo pa konn to mama mai si to seye analyse de so point de vue.
Pu to mama enn garson ou enn missier, swa enn mama ou enn madam bizin servi li manger akoz zot bread winner.(to mama work?) Pa konner mai seye gete de so point de vue.
Concernant preference, dan tou lakaz ena. Ban maman prefere zot garson kan a papa prefere zot tiffi.
Wi D'apres ban paran, tou seki banla dir zot dir zot parfer.
Generation gap la, mo truver pluto ke ban jeune montrer zot tro konner, biensure ena exception mai la plipart kumsa. Mwa si mo kumsa..mai mo seye mette mwa dan zot place pu geter si mo ena raison mwa mem ou pa.
Pou dir toi franchement, mo mama ki amen plis kas dan lakaz ki morpa. Alor li ti bisin le contrer dapré ceki to p dir: mo mama ti bisin la renn ek mo papa so esclav mai li pa le ka.

Preference pa dan tou lakaz kiena, li depann lor mentalité paran la. Kot moi, la plipar decision ki zot pran pa bon. Alor, le fait ki kan enn zafer pa bon, mo dir pa bon monn vinn mové. Alor mo papa fer preferans pou mo ser parski mo ser soutir mo papa so bann vis, mo mama fer preferans pou mo frer. Et moi mo kontan mo lisien et vice-versa and I'm fine with it. Razz

Generation gap kot moi vinn plito lor comprehension des choses avek diferens d'age kouma Varun ine dir. Mo explik toi... Mo guet bann zafer d'une fason pli pratik, pli critik ek pli modern mai mo paran croir dan tradition ki inclur superstition ek kiltir ancestral.

Mo pou dir plito ke kot moi mo paran toultan ine pansé zot parfé ek pena naryé ki pou sanz zot fason de pansé. Ni moi, ni mo ser, ni mo frer ine kapav sanz zot fason de pansé et d'agir pandan des années. Kouma Berenzer dir, 'We are doomed and bezated', b li parey pou moi.


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Re: Rélasyon Paran-Zanfan

Post by Jeet on Mon 18 Oct 2010 - 14:40

bezer bezer, mo sympathise ek toi!!! cat
pren courage, ki pu dir toi!!!

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Post by Vishaan on Mon 18 Oct 2010 - 19:02

@Sneha: enfin sakenn so point de vue..
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Post by Sneha on Tue 19 Oct 2010 - 11:18

Sa tigit sa... Monn rakont enn parti zis pou montré 'point de vue' de mo paran. Ena plain lézots examp koumsa kot moi ki p fer moi stressé de jour en jour ek li osi la majeur raison kifer monn admet dan lopital. 5-6 dokter ti consilté moi ek zot ti dir moi stresse p ronz moi a tel point ki mo zis p develop symptom enn derier lot mai mo pa p vraimen malad.

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Post by Varun on Tue 19 Oct 2010 - 22:28

We are only two persons living at my place; me and my mom. Years ago, I couldn't even stand her presence because of her commentaries towards my lifestyle. That said, I wasn't a bad adolescent but I wasn't the ideal son also. Everyday, we used to argue on almost every subject. I was frustrated with all that. Sometimes, my uncle or my aunt would intervene to try to calm things down and at other times, we would continue to argue until one of us breaks down. I should also point out that at that time I had a very bad temper and there were moments where I would sweep away everything found in front of me. That was horrible!

With time, I learnt that the problem was what we call a generation gap and I also figured out that I have the mental power of understanding my mom more than she can understand me. So, I decided to control my anger, take things calmly and ignore the maximum I could on things which I deemed were pointless.

Today, things are no more the same. We are able to understand each other better and we have learnt to deal with things more efficiently.

Finally, all I can tell you, sweetheart, is that may be you have the mental power of understanding your parents more than they can understand you and I advise you to walk on my footsteps.

By the way, friends, don't you think that the topic title should be changed to something like "Rélasyon Paran-Zanfan"? Wink

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Post by Jeet on Wed 20 Oct 2010 - 8:11

hmmm, wai kav change title la!!

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Post by Sneha on Wed 20 Oct 2010 - 11:31

You're right, huney. I'll follow your advice. Smile

As for the change of the topic title, why don't we create a poll to have everyone's opinion? Wink

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Post by Jeet on Wed 20 Oct 2010 - 14:24

wai , right sneha!!

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Post by Varun on Wed 20 Oct 2010 - 21:50

What's the use of adding a poll when everybody wants it? I've already changed it. Wink

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Post by Nusha on Sun 28 Nov 2010 - 19:48

Moi depi tout le temps mn resse minante mem moi. Tout ceki mo roder mo obliger gagner sinon, mo fer la greve de faim. Mo mama in bien batte moi et crie ek moi. Mais mo papa zamin in crie ek moi ni ine leve la main lor moi. Dan Form 4 et Form 5, mo pa ti p rode prend lesson. Mais mo mama dire mo bizin prend lesson sinon ban kamarade pour depasse moi. 1 zour mo papa in ammen moi prend lesson Accounts Vallee de Pretes. Lin passe so 1 la zourner ek moi sa zour la. Kan mo retourne la caze mo dire mo parents, lesson la tro loin mo tro fatiguer. Mo pleurer tou et mo dire mo papa chanC bn zeleve lesson la zourer (sa ti 1 mensonge sa). Done, mo papa dire pa bizin ale lesson. Mo parents in rode 4 prof dan Triolet mem et mn ale prend lesson.

Arrive Form 5, mo dire mo parent mo pour compoze 9 sujets. Mo mama ti fini commence rode professeurs tou. Mais moi mo pa pour ale prend enkor lesson. Kouma mo sorti lekol mo fer role la tete p fermal et mo dodo. So mn contine prend 4 lessons. Mais dan HSC mo mama in decide lor mo bn lesson imper.

Ziska ler mo contine fer mo minante. Mo rode fer ban zafer impossible vin possible. Et la coze samem mn gagne 1 volet crier ek mo mama zordi Razz

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Post by Sneha on Mon 29 Nov 2010 - 11:40

Enn bon teknik sa ain... lol!

Si to p kapav debrouyé par toi, kifer to paran obliz toi pou pran lesson koumsa? Kan li enn must, li enn lot zafer.

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Post by Nusha on Mon 29 Nov 2010 - 14:52

Dan fer pretext pour pa ale lesson mo ti 1 jack moi. Bn lesson la ti debalance mo la vie imP. Mo ti p fer tou zafer en lenver. Mo ti p zis dormi dan skul bus pour ki mo pas gagne sommeil dan lesson. pale

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Post by Vishaan on Mon 29 Nov 2010 - 15:08

Razz
Nusha, to bat Jeet tou la dans. xP
Haha Smile

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Post by Nusha on Mon 29 Nov 2010 - 15:30

Kan gouvernement ti met activity period dan timetable, mo ti xtra content koz parfois mo ti p profiter pour dodo sa ler la.

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Post by Varun on Mon 29 Nov 2010 - 21:11

What's the link with this topic? confused

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Post by Jeet on Tue 30 Nov 2010 - 21:17

Vishaan wrote: Razz
Nusha, to bat Jeet tou la dans. xP
Haha Smile
elaborer 1 kout ta! mo pa pi compren la!

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Post by Vishaan on Thu 30 Dec 2010 - 17:30

Ena plusieur zenfan dir: mo paran prefere mo frer ou ser. Mo paran crever. Mo paran ceci, cela..blablabla.

Mo ti kumsa enn temps.
Kifer sa ein? Si paran la enn kou ine refuse pu acheter kitsoz ou pa p donn largent, li bizin ena so raison. Si enn paran ine crie ek so zenfan li ena so raison. Alor pa veut dir ki zenfan la aster kumanse rebel. Sipa kuman li gagne 18 ans li permette li leve la voix ek so paran. Parski sa couyon ki p zoure oubien maltret so paran, li bizin realiser ki so paran mem kinn mette li lor la terre. Enplus li donn li so ban basic needs.
I am sure that these parents will regret of giving a child who speaks ill about them or even disrespect.
Generation Gap plays its role. But the child doesnot have a common sense? Does he/she lack brain?
I am much grateful to my parents whether they give me what I as or not.
Some time back, I used to argue to get what I want but now I dont because they have right to refuse me. For me, my parents are the best. cheers

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Post by Nusha on Thu 30 Dec 2010 - 21:53

Hail Vishaan!!

I shall always be indepted to my parents for all the sacrifices they have made for me. Smile

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Post by Varun on Sat 1 Jan 2011 - 22:11

Vishaan wrote:Komien parmi zot ine gete "3 Idiots"?

Zordi zour, ban zenfn nepli endrwa pu choizir zot l'avenir. Li plito ban parents ki decidé ki so zenfan bizin fer ek force zenfan la pu fer sa mem. Ki zot pensé? Moi mo enn victime de sa actuellement.

C plito mo parents ki p decide mo l'avenir.
Kommen Varun dir: Demin zot pu choicir mo madame.
Vishaan wrote:Ena plusieur zenfan dir: mo paran prefere mo frer ou ser. Mo paran crever. Mo paran ceci, cela..blablabla.

Mo ti kumsa enn temps.
Kifer sa ein? Si paran la enn kou ine refuse pu acheter kitsoz ou pa p donn largent, li bizin ena so raison. Si enn paran ine crie ek so zenfan li ena so raison. Alor pa veut dir ki zenfan la aster kumanse rebel. Sipa kuman li gagne 18 ans li permette li leve la voix ek so paran. Parski sa couyon ki p zoure oubien maltret so paran, li bizin realiser ki so paran mem kinn mette li lor la terre. Enplus li donn li so ban basic needs.
I am sure that these parents will regret of giving a child who speaks ill about them or even disrespect.
Generation Gap plays its role. But the child doesnot have a common sense? Does he/she lack brain?
I am much grateful to my parents whether they give me what I as or not.
Some time back, I used to argue to get what I want but now I dont because they have right to refuse me. For me, my parents are the best. cheers
As Sneha said somewhere, try to see beyond your nose and bear in mind that your situation does in no case reflect a general one.

You may rightfully be grateful to your parents and another child may rightfully go against his/her parents. Common examples of what I mean are those parents who do adultery, those parents who think most about their sons than about their daughters (Sneha's case), those parents who are under the influence of cigarettes, alcohol and/or drugs, those parents who simply do not have a good approach towards their children, etc.

Now, if you label someone as stupid without knowing his/her case in depth then may be you're yourself the most stupid of all because you can't judge someone based on assumptions.

As I've stated before, I couldn't stand my mom years ago but fortunately things have changed now and I admit I've erred a lot but that doesn't give my mom the right to choose my life partner.

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Post by Guest on Mon 3 Jan 2011 - 10:02

I totally agree Varun Razz

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Post by Vishaan on Tue 4 Jan 2011 - 16:09

Varun wrote:
Vishaan wrote:Komien parmi zot ine gete "3 Idiots"?

Zordi zour, ban zenfn nepli endrwa pu choizir zot l'avenir. Li plito ban parents ki decidé ki so zenfan bizin fer ek force zenfan la pu fer sa mem. Ki zot pensé? Moi mo enn victime de sa actuellement.

C plito mo parents ki p decide mo l'avenir.
Kommen Varun dir: Demin zot pu choicir mo madame.
Vishaan wrote:Ena plusieur zenfan dir: mo paran prefere mo frer ou ser. Mo paran crever. Mo paran ceci, cela..blablabla.

Mo ti kumsa enn temps.
Kifer sa ein? Si paran la enn kou ine refuse pu acheter kitsoz ou pa p donn largent, li bizin ena so raison. Si enn paran ine crie ek so zenfan li ena so raison. Alor pa veut dir ki zenfan la aster kumanse rebel. Sipa kuman li gagne 18 ans li permette li leve la voix ek so paran. Parski sa couyon ki p zoure oubien maltret so paran, li bizin realiser ki so paran mem kinn mette li lor la terre. Enplus li donn li so ban basic needs.
I am sure that these parents will regret of giving a child who speaks ill about them or even disrespect.
Generation Gap plays its role. But the child doesnot have a common sense? Does he/she lack brain?
I am much grateful to my parents whether they give me what I as or not.
Some time back, I used to argue to get what I want but now I dont because they have right to refuse me. For me, my parents are the best. cheers
As Sneha said somewhere, try to see beyond your nose and bear in mind that your situation does in no case reflect a general one.

You may rightfully be grateful to your parents and another child may rightfully go against his/her parents. Common examples of what I mean are those parents who do adultery, those parents who think most about their sons than about their daughters (Sneha's case), those parents who are under the influence of cigarettes, alcohol and/or drugs, those parents who simply do not have a good approach towards their children, etc.

Now, if you label someone as stupid without knowing his/her case in depth then may be you're yourself the most stupid of all because you can't judge someone based on assumptions.

As I've stated before, I couldn't stand my mom years ago but fortunately things have changed now and I admit I've erred a lot but that doesn't give my mom the right to choose my life partner.

Yeah I agree that some parents have bad approach towards their children. Surely it exists and I know some people. But why blame these people? Did those children ever tried to know the cause why their parents behave like this? We all think for ourselves. Why do certain parents beat their children despite the innocents did nothing wrong? Why? If the parents are wrong, I suppose the children(is sensible enough) may try to correct and reason the parents rather than showing off their anger or whatever.
How can you say that Sneha's parents think most about their son tha rather about their daughters? Have you witnessed? Have you tried to see from their point of view? Or are you seeing through Sneha's eyes? Neutral
Maybe I am wrong, maybe I am not able to see further but you guys can help me to 'see beyond my nose'. I am not that mature as you are. Most probably you can help me out here. But surely I will keep my questions going as most probably am seeing it from one side.
Sneha if you could elaborate more of what varun said about you, it may surely enlighten and help me to understand what you guys are trying to say.

On 31st of december, I wanted so much to go and visit my Nani at my Mawsi's place. So around 22:00, I decided to leave home when Father turned me down not allowing me to leave home. I got on my nerves and came into my room where Shanu was talking to mum. So I spoke to Shanu and told him and he explained me why my father must have turned me. Next morning I was driving the car along with Dad and Jeet when Father told me why he turned me down and I understood it all.

Now I know that everybody isnt the same but...you guys explain it to me.

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Post by Nusha on Sun 9 Jan 2011 - 10:36

Every parents have their own approach of bringing their children on the right path. They want them to progress in life and attain the highest. In an attempt to do so, some parents behave in a strict manner with their children.

Year 2010 has been a year whereby I have made several mistakes. For the first time in my entire life, I have seen my mum so angry with me. I was completely shattered. I have shared this with my closest friend and he asked me not to be discouraged.

On the 1st of January, when I went to wish my mum, she asked me to forget the past. She did so only because she wanted me to become a strong fighter and tackle any problem in life. Here I am, fully recovered from all the tragedies of 2010 and ready to overcome any coming havoc.

From my past experiences, I have deduced something - whenever we are having a 'clash' with our parent, the solution is to have a good conversation with them and try to bring mutual understanding.



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Post by Kavi on Sun 9 Jan 2011 - 18:52

Sneha, elaborate dow Razz

When it comes to me... mo pa ggn bokou problem avk mo ban parent....
enfin.. sakein ena so Dfo mais, mo kpv fer avk... Avan, moa si mo ti p dir bokou de mal sur mo ban parent... mais aprer certaine temps, mon realise seki mo ti p fer et seki mo parent p atan de moa... Ban parent ki ena les pieds sur terre koner kifr zot prive zot zenfan de kelke chose, puni zot zenfan... moa mo totally agree avek Nusha..


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Post by Varun on Sun 9 Jan 2011 - 20:33

Vishaan wrote:Yeah I agree that some parents have bad approach towards their children. Surely it exists and I know some people. But why blame these people? Did those children ever tried to know the cause why their parents behave like this? We all think for ourselves. Why do certain parents beat their children despite the innocents did nothing wrong? Why? If the parents are wrong, I suppose the children(is sensible enough) may try to correct and reason the parents rather than showing off their anger or whatever.
I know someone in my neighbourhood who's a drunkard and whose family has left him because of his unpardonable mistakes. That man used to work as a bricklayer like some of his friends (who are still working successfully as bricklayers today) and was able to raise his two children with the help of his wife who used to work in the textile industry.

He used to drink moderately in the past but with time his addiction grew to an uncontrollable level and that bad habit had direct adverse effects on his life. He stopped going to work, everyday he would beat his children and wife for no reason and he even started to invite other drunkards at his place. The money his wife earned at work would simply be spent on alcohol and cigarettes.

Finally, his wife and children have left that home to go somewhere else and lots of people have tried to help that guy (including your dad, Vishaan) but he seems to be uninterested.

Now, if we adopt your logic, that woman and her children needed to understand and tolerate that man's behaviour. Those children should respect their dad and say "our dad is the best father in the world".

You simply can't generalize your family's situation because not every child is fortunate like you.

Vishaan wrote:How can you say that Sneha's parents think most about their son tha rather about their daughters? Have you witnessed? Have you tried to see from their point of view? Or are you seeing through Sneha's eyes? Neutral
Maybe I am wrong, maybe I am not able to see further but you guys can help me to 'see beyond my nose'. I am not that mature as you are. Most probably you can help me out here. But surely I will keep my questions going as most probably am seeing it from one side.
Sneha if you could elaborate more of what varun said about you, it may surely enlighten and help me to understand what you guys are trying to say.
I'm not going to publicize those situations but for a quick reply, Vishaan, how can a mother force a daughter who has her right leg plastered up to her knee due to an ankle ligament damage to do household chores while the son should only return home after work to rest or can go out with his friends to party the whole night?

Today, even if she can walk while the injury hasn't really heeled at 100%, she has worked tirelessly since she got out of bed to be able to cater for the 30 persons her parents have invited for dinner while her dad and elder sister took the privilege of only sitting on the couch and chatting with the guests. Right now at this very minute, she needed to apply an anti-inflammatory gel around that swollen injured ankle.

Would you still say kudos to those parents, Vishaan?

Nusha wrote:Every parents have their own approach of bringing their children on the right path. They want them to progress in life and attain the highest. In an attempt to do so, some parents behave in a strict manner with their children.

Year 2010 has been a year whereby I have made several mistakes. For the first time in my entire life, I have seen my mum so angry with me. I was completely shattered. I have shared this with my closest friend and he asked me not to be discouraged.

On the 1st of January, when I went to wish my mum, she asked me to forget the past. She did so only because she wanted me to become a strong fighter and tackle any problem in life. Here I am, fully recovered from all the tragedies of 2010 and ready to overcome any coming havoc.

From my past experiences, I have deduced something - whenever we are having a 'clash' with our parent, the solution is to have a good conversation with them and try to bring mutual understanding.
Unfortunately, not every parent has the composure, education level and diplomacy to sit down and talk with their children.

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Post by Vishaan on Sun 9 Jan 2011 - 21:54

Why did he drink uncontrollably?

Concerning Sneha, I need to see it to believe. Neutral

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Post by Varun on Sun 9 Jan 2011 - 22:05

Vishaan wrote:Why did he drink uncontrollably?
In case you didn't know, alcohol is addictive and coupled with cigarette smoking, it results in an explosive time bomb. So, you don't really need a reason to consume alcohol and a single trial may be enough for someone to go in a downfall.

Vishaan wrote:Concerning Sneha, I need to see it to believe. Neutral
In this case, your questions shouldn't have been asked here (on a discussion board) because it's a bit like you're asking a couple to make love in front of you for you to believe they can make love.

And, you ask us to help you see beyond your nose? lol!

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Post by Vishaan on Mon 10 Jan 2011 - 0:12

Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.

Et wi. Mo konner to pa pu koz menti. Mai seki twa to p dir C kav twa to fasson gete les choses. Mwa mo envi gete li ek geter si mo truv li vraiem kuman twa to truv li oubien non.

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Post by Varun on Mon 10 Jan 2011 - 0:46

Vishaan wrote:Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.
Each time the wife would say something against the husband, the latter would beat him.

Vishaan wrote:Et wi. Mo konner to pa pu koz menti. Mai seki twa to p dir C kav twa to fasson gete les choses. Mwa mo envi gete li ek geter si mo truv li vraiem kuman twa to truv li oubien non.
You're simply impossible! I sincerely think you're making a fool out of yourself here because you seem to be more of being someone who's bent on refuting another's opinion rather than being a rational/unbiased person. What I said was what Sneha told me and that's clear enough for anybody to make a precise vision of the fact.

Note that I may not respond to your future reply in this topic should I find it one-sided as it has been the case lately.

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Post by Guest on Mon 10 Jan 2011 - 9:55

Vishaan wrote:Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.


Not everyone is the same
For instance my dad when he drinks my mom cannot stop him because if she tries to do so, he just swear at her or even beat her.
You should not only generalise your case
try to put yourself in someone else shoes then only you will figure out the differences

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Post by Sneha on Mon 10 Jan 2011 - 16:06

Vishaan wrote:Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.

Et wi. Mo konner to pa pu koz menti. Mai seki twa to p dir C kav twa to fasson gete les choses. Mwa mo envi gete li ek geter si mo truv li vraiem kuman twa to truv li oubien non.
Varun wrote:
Vishaan wrote:Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.
Each time the wife would say something against the husband, the latter would beat him.

Vishaan wrote:Et wi. Mo konner to pa pu koz menti. Mai seki twa to p dir C kav twa to fasson gete les choses. Mwa mo envi gete li ek geter si mo truv li vraiem kuman twa to truv li oubien non.
You're simply impossible! I sincerely think you're making a fool out of yourself here because you seem to be more of being someone who's bent on refuting another's opinion rather than being a rational/unbiased person. What I said was what Sneha told me and that's clear enough for anybody to make a precise vision of the fact.

Note that I may not respond to your future reply in this topic should I find it one-sided as it has been the case lately.
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Vishaan wrote:Its maybe addictive. But was the wife watching when he was drinking? Couldnt she stop him earlier when he was drinking? Even my father drinks but when I see that he is taking too much, I tell him and he does stop. If he doesnot I take away the bottle having mom backing me.


Not everyone is the same
For instance my dad when he drinks my mom cannot stop him because if she tries to do so, he just swear at her or even beat her.
You should not only generalise your case
try to put yourself in someone else shoes then only you will figure out the differences
Vishaan, Varun ine explik toi plusieurs foi mai paret to pa p compran mem. San foi la, Nishta osi ine fer enn zefor pou fer toi compran mé mwé gagne l'impression to tujur pa pou compran. Alor, pou la dernière foi, mo pou reponn toi par enn sel kestion:

Eski tonn dimann to paran prouv zot lien parental par enn test de maternité et paternité pou ki to sir ki banla mem to paran? Shocked

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Post by Varun on Mon 10 Jan 2011 - 19:50

Nishta wrote:Not everyone is the same
For instance my dad when he drinks my mom cannot stop him because if she tries to do so, he just swear at her or even beat her.
You should not only generalise your case
try to put yourself in someone else shoes then only you will figure out the differences
Sneha wrote:Vishaan, Varun ine explik toi plusieurs foi mai paret to pa p compran mem. San foi la, Nishta osi ine fer enn zefor pou fer toi compran mé mwé gagne l'impression to tujur pa pou compran. Alor, pou la dernière foi, mo pou reponn toi par enn sel kestion:

Eski tonn dimann to paran prouv zot lien parental par enn test de maternité et paternité pou ki to sir ki banla mem to paran? Shocked
You're spot on, girls! cheers

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Post by Shameek on Wed 12 Jan 2011 - 13:56

For me i love my parents... Wheveva i have a difficulty the guidance and the helping hand is der... Maybe at times we can feel that they are of another generation but all i can say is till they are here am a complete guy... My parents have neva imposed anythng on me... i saw a dream and they guided me to success:)

Varun wrote:We are only two persons living at my place; me and my mom. Years ago, I couldn't even stand her presence because of her commentaries towards my lifestyle. That said, I wasn't a bad adolescent but I wasn't the ideal son also. Everyday, we used to argue on almost every subject. I was frustrated with all that. Sometimes, my uncle or my aunt would intervene to try to calm things down and at other times, we would continue to argue until one of us breaks down. I should also point out that at that time I had a very bad temper and there were moments where I would sweep away everything found in front of me. That was horrible!

With time, I learnt that the problem was what we call a generation gap and I also figured out that I have the mental power of understanding my mom more than she can understand me. So, I decided to control my anger, take things calmly and ignore the maximum I could on things which I deemed were pointless.

Today, things are no more the same. We are able to understand each other better and we have learnt to deal with things more effeciently.

Finally, all I can tell you, sweetheart, is that may be you have the mental power of understanding your parents more than they can understand you and I advise you to walk on my footsteps.

By the way, friends, don't you think that the topic title should be changed to something like "Rélasyon Paran-Zanfan"? Wink
tou seki varun ine dire assez pou dimunes und ki ene ti zefor n nu kav compran zot:)

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Post by Nusha on Fri 14 Jan 2011 - 11:59

Mo penser quelque part 1 zenfant aussi bzin essaye comprend so parent. Nou pa kpv gagne tou zafer lor plato. Si nu parent p konne fer sacrifice la coz nu, li vin nu devoir pou fer imP sacrifice pou nu parents.

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Post by Sneha on Fri 14 Jan 2011 - 14:35

Nusha, what you said is quite understandable to everybody and we have already discussed it before. However, what we are discussing now are the incoherent points which Vishaan brought forward. Wink

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Post by Nusha on Sun 23 Jan 2011 - 17:05

Dakor Sneha Smile

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Post by Sneha on Sun 31 Jul 2011 - 22:16

Sneha wrote:Vishaan, Varun ine explik toi plusieurs foi mai paret to pa p compran mem. San foi la, Nishta osi ine fer enn zefor pou fer toi compran mé mwé gagne l'impression to tujur pa pou compran. Alor, pou la dernière foi, mo pou reponn toi par enn sel kestion:

Eski tonn dimann to paran prouv zot lien parental par enn test de maternité et paternité pou ki to sir ki banla mem to paran? Shocked
I'm still waiting for an answer, Vishaan. Basketball

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